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Falling Apart

Rejection stinks.  It doesn't matter if it's a relationship, an internship, a job, or a friend.  No matter the source of the rejection, it stings.  It makes us doubt who we are and our own self-worth, and it can lead to even scarier thing.

I don't know your story, and I don't know the struggles in your life.  What I do know, however, is that in my struggles as well as your individual ones, God has a plan.  The world is so easy to get caught up in, and it can seem completely suffocating.  

We were made to love and be loved, this is obvious in the Bible:

Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. (Romans 13:8)

With this being said, since we are created to love one another, we crave that love back.  We want to be noticed for our talents, our hearts, our looks, and our intelligence.  One of my strongest love languages is words of affirmation, so receiving the exact opposite is extremely painful.  

This semester, I am trying to let my walk with Christ be more transparent, as well as have honest, real conversations with those around me about their struggles and their hearts.  In doing so, I will admit that while this semester has already had many highs, rejection has also been very present and very obvious.

Through this, I have had a few choices to make.  What I really want to do in the midst of rejection is hide out in my room for awhile while I throw myself a pity party.  I want to completely dismiss the other doors that could be opening, and just decide that because the path I thought I clearly saw didn't work out means that there is no way to get where I am going.

This will look different in everyone's life, but it could mean that because you didn't get that job, you give up hope on your career.  Because that boy/girl didn't love you back, you feel unloveable.  Because that clique excluded you, you felt isolation.

If anything similar to these sounds like you, DON'T LET IT BE!

No matter how hard it is when people in this world reject us, it is not the ultimate rejection and the definition of hope still lives IN US.

Attached to this post I am including a song (shoutout to  my roommate for introducing it to me) called Just Be Held by Casting Crowns.  Before you continue reading, please take a few minutes to listen to it.


One of my favorite lyrics says "Your world is not falling apart, it's falling into place".

Even though it's scary to surrender all of our plans to Christ, He is still in control and He has our best intentions in mind.  Sometimes it means He has something similar planned for us, just an alternate route that requires faith to get there, and sometimes it means He has something totally unexpected that we would never dream of, but He is asking us to take a giant leap and surrender completely as He provides an even greater plan.

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans. (Proverbs 16:3)

This verse does not say that we will make our personal plans happen according to our own individual will.  It says He will ESTABLISH our plans.  

Merriam-Webster's definition of establish is to "Bring into existence".  The creator of this UNIVERSE, of EVERYTHING around us wants to create our plan!  He truly is a perfect creator, so I want to trust Him more than my imperfect self with my life.

Maybe you are starting to get caught up in your self worth and are wondering if this perfect creator is still pleased with you.  If He is so perfect, why does He still care about us and our imperfections?

If this is what you're feeling, it might be time to look at the basic core of the Bible and who God is.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)

God gave His Son, the ONLY PERFECT being that has ever and will ever live for us BECAUSE we are imperfect.  He knows we mess up, he sees our flaws, and instead of rejecting us he SAVED us.

With this verse in mind, let's also reflect on our Savior.  Jesus experienced the worst form of rejection, and we still reject Him daily.  Christ came to redeem us and to love us, and His love has never gone away.  However, we reject Him.  We spit in His face daily.  I'm not just talking about the people that literally nailed Him to the cross on that day, I am talking about each of us every single day.  Every day we sin, which is essentially us saying that even though Jesus came and suffered for us, we are gonna turn our backs and walk our own direction instead.

Even though we are so flawed and don't always live in Christ's example, there is nothing we can do that will separate us from Christ.  Once we accept our flaws and realize that Christ has come to save us from these sins, and once we ask Him to forgive us from those sins, God ACCEPTS us with open arms and more love than we can even imagine.  

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. –Romans 5:8

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